Losing Interest in a Long-Distance Relationship


Losing Interest in a Long-Distance Relationship

It’s easy to start losing interest when you’ve been in a long-distance relationship for some time. If this happens, it will help if you know who is losing interest and why.

Losing interest in a long-distance relationship is expected after being in this type of relationship for too long. One or maybe both partners get tired of the emotional roller coaster of being away from each other and lose interest in the relationship slowly. When this happens is better to find a way to close the distance and be together or let go of this relationship.

If you’re losing interest in a long-distance relationship, it’s worth taking the time to understand which part of your relationship you’re no longer interested in.

In this article will try to answer some questions like:

  • Are you losing interest or is your partner losing interest?
  • Are you losing interest in your partner?
  • Are you losing interest in your relationship?
  • Are you losing interest in the long-distance?

Once you can answer these questions, you will have more clarity about what you can do about it.


Signs You Are Losing Interest in a Long-Distance Relationship

Trying to maintain a healthy long-distance relationship for a long time can be challenging. In a romantic relationship, you expect your partner to be close to you, but in a long-distance relationship that isn’t possible.

While long-distance relationships can work well for a short period, trying to make it work long-term can become a struggle in your relationship.

If you are trying to maintain a long-distance relationship without having fun and joy, soon you’ll get tired of it and lose interest. When you lose interest in a long-distance relationship, it can be time to spice it up, or it can be a red flag that your relationship is coming to an end. 

Signs that You Are Losing Interest in Your Long-Distance Partner:

  • You’re no longer looking forward to talking to your long-distance partner.
  • You have boring conversations.
  • You try to avoid any form of communication with your partner.
  • You are no longer looking forward to seeing them.
  • You are not excited to know anything about your partner.

Signs You’re Losing Interest in Your Relationship:

  • Feeling that being in this relationship doesn’t contribute to your life.
  • You don’t want to spend time working out the issues in your relationship.
  • You think that you’d be better off out of this relationship.
  • This relationship keeps you away from doing the things you enjoy with people you like.
  • You feel that this relationship is holding you back in life.
  • You spend most of the time arguing, rather than sharing happy moments.

Signs You’re Losing Interest in Keeping Your Relationship Long-Distance:

  • Lack of physical intimacy is leaving you sexually frustrated. 
  • Most of the time, you feel sad and frustrated because you can’t be together with your partner.
  • You’ve wished to be together for so long, that now you’re tired of it.
  • You want to be together with your partner, but being away from your magic partner no longer works for you.
  • You’re tired of talking to your partner online without being able to hold them and talk to them face-to-face.

Now, let’s have a look at what you can do if you find yourself losing interest in your long-distance relationship.


What to Do When You Are Losing Interest in Your Long-Distance Partner?

When you are away from your romantic partner, at some point, you may start growing apart.

Couples living together, share many of the same experiences. In the long-distance relationship, you have different experiences. Every experience changes you as a person. So, when you’re away from your partner for a long time, the two of you become different people to the ones who started the relationship.

Being away from your romantic partner means a lack of physical intimacy. After a while, you will start feeling sexually frustrated and will need to have physical closeness with someone else. When you’re away from your partner, your feelings may also change.

After a few months apart, you may lose feelings for your partner or develop new romantic feelings for someone else.

If you find yourself losing interest in the long-distance partner, the best thing you can do is to share how you feel and ask your partner how they feel about you.

When your feelings have changed, and you drifted apart, there is no point keeping the relationship going. It may be healthier for both of you to end the relationship.


What to Do When You Are Losing Interest in The Relationship?

At some point in your long-distance relationship, you might find yourself losing interest in this relationship.

While you are still okay with the person, you may feel that this relationship is no longer contributing to your life. It’s not like you are upset with your partner or have bad feelings about them. In this case, you may feel like your relationship is not going anywhere.

Sometimes, couples in a long-distance relationship remain in limbo. They don’t feel like staying together is right for them, but they also don’t feel like breaking up.

This situation usually develops slowly and over time. So, it can be hard to be decisive all of a sudden. But there’s also no point wasting any more of your time. You can try to revive your relationship or to let it go.

As always, the best thing you can do is to express how you feel to your partner. When you do, you may find that your partner feels the same, and you may agree to remain friends. You may also encounter resistance from your partner because they may not feel the same way as you.

One thing you should keep in mind is that if you have lost interest in your relationship, and it’s no longer contributing to your life, it’s unhealthy for you, your partner, and their relationship to do nothing about it.


What to Do When You Are Losing Interest in Doing It Long-Distance?

While in a long-distance relationship, you may find yourself in love with your partner. You may also feel that your relationship is great, and you have a special connection.

So, it may be the case, why you are just tired of keeping your relationship long-distance. Suppose your long-distance relationship lasts more than a few months. In that case, it’s easy to lose interest in trying to maintain an emotional connection online while feeling deprived of physical intimacy most of the time.

If a long-distance is no longer working for you, tell your partner exactly how you feel. Ask them how they see your relationship is going. If there are specific reasons for you losing interest in a long-distance, maybe is it that you can find a way to fix it.

For example, if you need more physical intimacy, maybe you could visit each other more often considering an open long-distance relationship.

If you’re losing interest because your long-distance relationship is getting boring, there are ways you can spice it up a little with fun trips, online games, gifts and care packages. 

But it may be the case that you are no longer willing to be physically away from your partner, and that’s perfectly normal. When this happens, explain to your partner that being together is very important to you if you had to keep your relationship going.

Together with your partner, you might find a way to move in together sooner rather than later.

And if you cannot find a way to live together, you could consider a long-distance friendship until you are in a better position.


Depending on the reasons why you or your partner are losing interest in each other or your relationship, you may choose to reflect on your relationship, talk about it, identify the problems and find solutions or you may choose to let it go. Before making any rush decisions, check out these workbooks. They are designed to let both of you reflect on your relationship and together decide your next steps moving forward:


Signs Your Long-Distance Partner Is Losing Interest

While you might be over the moon in your long-distance relationship, you may find that your partner is the one who is losing interest in you or your relationship.

If you pick up on the following signs, it’s worth bringing them up in your next conversation.

Here are some signs that your long-distance partner is losing interest in you, your relationship, or the long-distance part of it:

  • They don’t communicate with you as often as they used to.
  • Your partner avoids having meaningful conversations.
  • When you talk to your long-distance partner, they keep their conversations short and avoid talking about feelings or the relationship.
  • They don’t make an effort to visit you.
  • They don’t consider moving in or living together.
  • They are not open or willing to work out the issues you may have in your relationship.
  • They avoid talking about their feelings and listen to what’s going on inside of you.

What to Do When Your Long-Distance Partner Is Losing Interest?

If you find that your long-distance partner is losing interest, it will help if you know what exactly they’re losing interest about.

If they are losing interest because your relationship is long-distance, maybe you can plan more frequent visits or make a spontaneous trip together.

If their feelings towards you have changed, or they have developed feelings for someone else, you should respect that and let them go. Trying to maintain a long-distance relationship with someone who doesn’t have strong feelings towards you is unhealthy. 

Both of you would be better off ending this relationship and giving each other the opportunity to find other people to be with.

In any case, talk to them to find out what’s going on, share how you feel, and together you can find a way forward that works for both of you.


Conclusion

When a long-distance relationship lasts a long time, it’s normal for things can get a little bit boring occasionally. Either you or your partner may lose interest in your long-distance relationship.

The critical thing to do is to understand the reason why you or your partner is losing interest. If one of you is losing interest in maintaining your relationship long-distance, then you should try to find a way to be together.

On the other hand, if one of you no longer has the same feelings towards you or may have developed feelings for someone else, then it would be healthier for you to end your relationship.

If you decide to end your long-distance relationship, you should do it together. Also, it doesn’t have to be all pain and sorrow. You can be long-distance friends, for example, if you like each other as individuals. 

You may also consider having an open long-distance relationship if your issue with needing to be physically close with someone else and you are not in a position to see each other.

Whatever you decide, as long as you do it together, respecting each other, you will be able to find the best solution that works for both of you.


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Frequently Asked Questions

Is my long-distance partner losing interest?

Your long-distance partner may be losing interest if they don’t talk to you as much as they did, avoid having meaningful conversations, or are no longer willing to make an effort to work out the issues in your relationship.

Is my long-distance partner losing interest in me?

There is a chance that your long-distance partner may be losing interest in you personally. If they don’t seem to care about your personal life, your feelings, your calls, and ambitions, that can be a sign that they are no longer interested in you.


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Alex Barinov

Hi, I’m Alex:) I am a relationship coach. My passions include understanding life, relationships and human behaviour. As a coach, I help couples resolve their conflicts and create a harmonious and loving relationship.

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