Meeting for the First Time in a Long-Distance Relationship


Meeting for the First Time in a Long-Distance Relationship

You’ve been in a long-distance relationship with someone you met online for a little while. Now it’s time for you to meet.

Meeting for the first time in a long-distance relationship can be nerve-wracking. It’s an important step that will define the future of your relationship. The best thing you can do is be yourself.

Today I’d like to talk about things you can do to prepare for your first meeting with your long-distance partner.


A long-distance relationship without meeting

When you start a long-distance relationship online, it may be months before you get to meet the person of your choice in real life. These few months will be a stage of your long-distance relationship, where are you get to know the person you are considering to be a long-distance partner.

In the long-distance relationship, you can communicate via text messages, phone calls, and video calls. These means of communication are perfectly acceptable to learn about the person. But you won’t know what they’re like and how you feel next to them until you meet each other in real life.

A long-distance relationship without meeting shouldn’t last longer than two or three months. The reason for it is that the person you are in the long-distance relationship with at that point is more of an idea that your mind constructs based on the information they provide. 

When you meet someone online, they may or may not give you the correct information. There is no guarantee that the person on the other end of the phone call is upfront with you about who they are and what they do.

It’s okay to trust someone with whom you are starting a long-distance relationship. But you should keep an open mind and be flexible in letting things develop slowly but safely.


Meeting someone you met online

The idea of meeting your long-distance partner is for you to get to know them as a person. Meeting each other in real life will help you see what it’s like being with this person.

Before meeting the person you met online, you should keep an open mind that when you meet them for the first time since may or may not work out.

When you’ve spent a couple of months getting to know a person, Their interests, values, beliefs, and the same time you may have idealised them.

If this happens when you meet for the first time, there will be a calibration between the idea of the person you created in your head and the actual person that they are in real life.

When you meet someone for the first time after getting to know them online, you will feel like you know that person. At the same time, it will be like meeting someone new. These two perceptions can create a sort of conflict in your head. This conflict is the reason you may be feeling nervous about meeting them.

Another reason some people may feel nervous about meeting a long-distance relationship for the first time is if they haven’t been completely upfront themselves. When you’re speaking to someone online, it’s easy to get carried away to tell them your story the way you would like it to be. Even if it means that the information you describe isn’t a true reflection of the real story of who you are.

The best advice I would give anyone who is starting a long-distance relationship online is to be themselves. Not having to play the role of someone else or make things up will help you feel relaxed and comfortable being who you are.

Suppose you are honest and authentic from the beginning. In that case, the people who are not connecting you with you will dissipate, and the ones who are vibrating at the same level as you are will remain. It makes it easier for you to not waste your time on people with whom you wouldn’t get along anyway. 

And it will allow you to spend the time on people with whom you can create a harmonious and loving relationship. In some cases, it can be romantic, and another’s you might find a perfect friend.


Long-distance relationship advice for meeting the first time

The biggest reason that meeting someone for the first time can be so nerve-wracking is because of your expectations. During the initial phase of getting to know each other, you created a particular image of a person. 

And now you are afraid of disappointment if this person won’t match your expectations. Creating expectations are part of our survival. It’s a thing we all do all the time, and it’s ok to worry a little. But this is where you can change how you feel.

You can focus on things you expect, or you can feel excited about learning new things. You see, when we are talking to someone online, we think and behave in a certain way. When we are face to face with a person or a situation, we behave differently. Meeting someone for the first time in a long-distance relationship is a strange experience. 

Part of you thinks you already know them well and expects them to be in a certain way. While the other part realises that all you know is some information about this person. In a long-distance relationship, you are not connecting to another person. You are relating to the idea of this person and what you know about them.

When you meet for the first time, you will think that you know them, but you will see that you don’t. The best thing you can do is be aware of your expectations but focus on getting to know them all over again.

After your meeting, you’ll probably be apart for some time. It’s nice to get your special someone a special something when you meet. This way, they will have something to remind them of you and meeting you for the first time.


Long-distance relationship meeting for the first time gone wrong

When you are meeting for the first time after starting a long-distance relationship online, things may go either way.

After having met a person in real life, you might be disillusioned. You might not feel how you imagined and expected you would.

On the bright side, you might get along very well from the first time you see each other. If you have been upfront and honest with each other during the first few months, you should get on just fine, and you will have lots of fun together.

The truth is, you won’t know how things turn out until you go and meet your long-distance relationship in real life. And, whatever happens, it’s all great fun. Even if you meet someone and something goes wrong, As long as you’re safe, it’s all an experience for you.

Maybe with someone you meet for the first time, it won’t work out. But it’s called experience will teach you about things you should be paying attention to when you are getting to know someone online. 

The next person, you meet online, you will know the right questions to ask, and the right way to behave.


Meeting your long-distance relationship again

If your first meeting went great, I’m sure you’ll be looking forward to your second meeting.

Meeting someone you started a long-distance relationship with for the first time, is probably the most intense experience in your long-distance relationship.

While the second meeting may not feel as nerve-wracking, it isn’t any less important than the first one. Even when couples live together and have known each other for many years, there is always room to discover new things about one other.

Suppose you’re meeting your long-distance partner for the second time. In that case, it means you’re considering that your relationship will get serious. I would suggest taking your second meeting for what it is, a chance to spend more time with a new person.

Don’t rush into making promises or creating a committed relationship too early.

Meeting your long-distance partner for the second time is the perfect opportunity to relax and have fun doing things which both of you enjoy and have in common.


How often should long-distance couples meet? 

Existing couples who are in long-distance relationships should meet as much as they need to have physical closeness. In most cases, it’s not that easy. 

Visiting each other takes time and cost money. If money isn’t an issue, then you can see your long-distance partner as often as you’d like. In this case, being in a long-distance relationship isn’t that hard.

For couples who are starting their long-distance relationship online, meetings are all about getting to know each other better in real life. If you have never met your long-distance partner, you should do it after a couple of months of getting to know each other. 

If your first meeting goes well and you enjoy each other’s company, you may want to meet each other couple of times a month for a few months. 

You can use this meeting opportunity to go to different places, travel the world and enjoy each other’s company. 

After a few months of visiting each other, you could talk about moving in together for a couple of months to see what it’s like when you share the same space for a long time.


What to do when you meet your long-distance partner after a long time? 

Suppose you’re in a long-distance relationship with an existing partner. In that case, you should see each other every couple of weeks at least. But long-distance couples find themselves in a variety of situations.

Sometimes it may not be possible for couples in a long-distance relationship to see each other as often as they would like.

Suppose you are meeting your long-distance partner after a long time. In that case, you should prepare yourself for the possibility that either you, your partner or both of you are not feeling the same way about each other.

When you’re in the long-distance relationship with an existing partner, you can maintain an emotional connection for some time even if you don’t see each other that often. But if you’re not seeing your romantic partner for months at a time, your feelings about each other might change.

The best thing is, to be honest, and upfront with your feelings and allow your partner to express how they feel.

Pretending that nothing has changed, and trying to get back to your relationship the way it was, isn’t going to work well for anyone.


Conclusion

Meeting someone who you met online for the first time is a pivotal point in your relationship. When you start a long-distance relationship online, you can take some time to get to know each other. 

You can learn about your partner’s interest, values, beliefs. They can also share with you the history what they’re like and what they don’t like, their goals and ambitions.

But it’s not until you meet that person in real life that you will know what it’s like for you to be together. The important thing is to be yourself, keep an open mind, and be safe.


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