Problems in a Long-Distance Relationship


Problems in a Long-Distance Relationship

Problems in a long-distance relationship are slightly different from the ones couples experience when living together. These problems can strain your relationship.

Here are the main problems in a long-distance relationship:

  • Lack of physical intimacy.
  • Difficulty to maintain an emotional connection.
  • Doubts about a long-distance relationship
  • Boring long-distance relationship
  • Losing interest in your partner or your relationship
  • Drifting apart and fading feelings.
  • Miscommunication, fights and arguments
  • Physical and emotional intimacy issues
  • Sexual frustration because of the lack of physical intimacy
  • Trust issues
  • Insecurity
  • Jealousy
  • Cheating
  • Depression
  • Anxiety

In a long-distance relationship, you have to deal with all the problems of being in a relationship, and handle the problems that come as a result of being away from your romantic partner. To make a long-distance relationship work, you need to understand how the distance affects your relationship.

In this article, we’ll talk about common problems that couples face during a long-distance relationship and a few ways on how to deal with these problems.


What Is a Long-Distance Relationship?

A long-distance relationship is a romantic relationship where a couple is separated by geographical distance. As a result of this distance, you don’t get to see your partner every day as you in a regular relationship or when you live together.

Because you don’t live together, physical intimacy is only possible during your visits. While most couples can manage quite well for a short period, a long-distance relationship that lasts a long time can become increasingly harder to maintain.

The primary means of communication in a long-distance relationship are text messages, phone calls, and video calls. It means that the only way you can express yourself is through words, unlike in a regular relationship, where you can express yourself and feel the connection by being next to each other.

Sometimes a hug can express your feelings much better than words.

These are the reasons why long-distance relationships aren’t meant to last a long time. They can be great to get to know someone online or maintain an existing relationship for a few months.

Trying to keep a healthy long-distance relationship for a long time can be challenging. If not handled properly, problems that come with the distance, can bring you a lot of suffering and ruin your relationship.


Common Problems in a Long-Distance Relationship 

When you’re in a long-distance relationship, you face many of the same problems that couples living together. If you want to have a healthy relationship, you need a way to resolve these problems. 

When you are away from your romantic partner, everyday problems can be harder to resolve. What makes a long-distance relationship even more complicated, are the problems that come as a result of being away from your partner. 

Here are common problems couples experience in a long-distance relationship:

  • Doubts about a long-distance relationship
  • Boring long-distance relationship
  • Losing interest in your partner or your relationship
  • Drifting apart and fading feelings
  • Miscommunication, fights and arguments
  • Physical and emotional intimacy issues
  • Sexual frustration because of the lack of physical intimacy
  • Trust issues
  • Insecurity
  • Jealousy
  • Cheating
  • Depression
  • Anxiety

Most problems can be worked out if you have a transparent, open, and honest communication. So, let’s take a closer look at communication and intimacy problems during a long-distance relationship and the right way to handle them.

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Communication Problems in a Long-Distance Relationship 

Communication can be a big problem in a long-distance relationship. When you live with a partner, you communicate a lot without saying anything through body language.

For example, after a long day, you can come home and hug your partner or relax next to each other. Even without words, you can have a good guess at how your partner is feeling, and you can be there for them if they want to talk about things.

In a long-distance relationship, you can’t be close to your partner, so you can’t feel their presence. The only way you can share your thoughts and feelings is by talking about them.

While some people are very good at expressing themselves verbally, for others having to put feelings into words is not so easy.

If you are in a long-distance relationship, it’s worth taking the time to learn how to communicate effectively. It may take some time and practice, but as a reward, you will be able to express yourself effectively and understand your partner better.

Understanding and effective communication are the keys to a healthy and successful long-distance relationship if you don’t learn effective communication while in the long-distance relationship, you risk having a lot of confusion and misunderstandings.

Simple things can turn into unnecessary arguments and fights. And if you can’t have good enough communication to avoid fights, what are the chances of being able to resolve your issues?

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Intimacy Problems in a Long-Distance Relationship

Intimacy problems are one of the most significant issues in a long-distance relationship. Physical intimacy is at the core of every romantic relationship, and a long-distance relationship isn’t an exception.

If you started a long-distance relationship, you probably have a desire to move in together at some point. It is easier to handle the distance if you have a plan and a timeline on how you will manage a long-distance relationship.

A timeline will help you navigate your relationship until start living together. Without the plan and a timeline, you will encounter many uncertainties about your relationship and where it is going.

A plan and a timeline will give a direction to your long-distance relationship. It will also give you and your partner the reassurance that you know where you stand with each other and with your relationship.

Having an end date for your long-distance relationship and frequent visits will help you maintain physical intimacy. Suppose you don’t have the means to visit each other as much as you’d like. In that case, you can maintain an emotional connection to compensate for the lack of physical intimacy. But you can only do it for a short while.

If you don’t have a plan for your long-distance relationship or if it lasts a long time, a lack of physical intimacy can lead to sexual frustration. Growing frustration can result in anxiety and will gradually turn your whole relationship into a struggle.


How to Handle Long-Distance Relationship Problems? 

To handle a long-distance relationship effectively, you need to have effective communication and learn to manage the lack of physical intimacy.

Effective communication allows you to maintain an emotional connection. Via online means, you can catch up on everyday things as well as express your thoughts, feelings, doubts and concerns with your partner. This way, if any issues arise, you’ll be able to talk about them and find a way to fix them.

Try to avoid excessive communication which will make your long-distance relationship boring and take away time from doing fun things with the people you love.

The lack of communication can be a problem. If you or your long-distance partner don’t talk enough, you can start drifting apart, and with time your feelings may fade away.

As a rule of thumb, tried to keep text messaging and phone calls for more casual conversations. If you want to discuss something meaningful with your partner, it’s best to do so face-to-face or via video calls.

Physical intimacy is a little bit harder to maintain while in a long-distance relationship. The only time you can be physically close is during your visits, or trips together. There are things you can do online to spice up your relationship. You can have dirty talks to each other via sexting, play naughty games online or have virtual sex.

Gifts and care packages can give you a sense of physical connection. Gifts are tangible things. Having something you can touch that you associate with your partner can give you a sense of closeness during the times when you feel alone.

However, nothing can replace the actual physical touch and intimacy when you are together. That’s why the long-distance in your relationship shouldn’t last too long.


Conclusion

When you are in a long-distance relationship, you face many of the same problems as couples who live together. However, some problems are specific to long-distance relationships.

Communication and intimacy problems are more pronounced in an LDR. Those are the reasons long-distance relationships can be hard to maintain.

Effective communication is a must for keeping an emotional connection. To maintain physical intimacy, you need the means to visit each other regularly. It would help if you also had a plan and a timeline of how long the long-distance relationship will last and when you will move in together.

Healthy and successful long-distance relationships are possible as long as your communication and understanding are tip-top.


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Frequently Asked Questions

What are the problems with long-distance relationships?

The main problems with long-distance relationships are communication and lack of physical intimacy. Bad communication can lead to confusion and misunderstanding and result in unnecessary fights and arguments. The lack of physical intimacy can lead to sexual frustration and anxiety. Anxiety and depression can make your long-distance relationship more of a struggle than a fulfilling experience.

How to solve long-distance relationship problems?

You can solve problems in a long-distance relationship through effective communication. When you have effective communication, you can navigate your long-distance relationship and identify issues when they come up. It will also give you a chance to work out your problems before they destroy your relationship. Having a plan can reassure you that your long-distance relationship is going in the right direction.

How do you deal with long-distance relationship problems?

You can deal with long-distance relationship problems by having understanding. You can build understanding by having open, transparent and honest communication. When you have understanding in a relationship, you can freely express yourself as well as be able to see your partner’s point of you. As long as you have a willingness to hear and understand each other, you have a chance to make your long-distance relationship healthy and successful.

What problems do you need to overcome to make your long-distance relationship work?

One of the main problems is the lack of physical intimacy. A romantic relationship involves physical closeness, and when you can’t share a physical connection with the person you love, there is a void. After some time, you may feel increasingly distant from each other. While physical distance can be managed, it’s the emotional connection that keeps your relationship alive.


Alex Barinov

Hi, I’m Alex:) I am a relationship coach. My passions include understanding life, relationships and human behaviour. As a coach, I help couples resolve their conflicts and create a harmonious and loving relationship.

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