After you’ve been in a long-distance relationship with your existing partner, you probably feel it’s time to reunite.
Reuniting after a long-distance relationship is something that couples look forward impatiently. But, it can also be awkward and even nerve-wracking. After being apart for a long time, you need to learn to be together again and maybe reignite the love.
When you live with a person, your partner, you share a lot of experiences and grow together. When you’re away, you have different experiences. If your long-distance relationship lasts a long time, your feelings about each other may change, and you could grow apart.
The success of your relationship depends on how you feel and how you express your feelings to your partner. So, let’s talk about things you can do to prepare for your reunion after a long-distance relationship.
What Is It Like to Reunite After a Long-Distance Relationship?
Long-distance relationships can be challenging because it’s not easy to be away from your romantic partner for a long time.
A 2006 study of 335 students at Ohio State University found that a full third of long-distance relationships end within three months of reuniting in the same city.
When you are reuniting after a long-distance relationship, both of you might be slightly different people than you were before the distance came into your relationship.
It may feel strange to reunite after a long-distance relationship. In some way, you are reuniting with the person you know, but another way this person is somewhat different.
Just because you were happy together before a long-distance relationship, it doesn’t mean that you will get back to the same relationship after the long-distance.
It’s normal to feel nervous about your reunion after a long-distance relationship. It’s also normal to feel awkward reuniting with your partner after you haven’t seen them for some time.
When you are in a long-distance relationship, you must maintain emotional and physical intimacy as much as possible. You can maintain an emotional connection by keeping in touch online. To keep physical intimacy, you should visit each other as often as you can and would like.
If you maintain a connection to your long-distance partner, your reunion won’t be as awkward.
Reunion Expectations After a Long-Distance Relationship
After a long-distance relationship, you may expect to reunite with your partner and get back to your relationship where you left off. This expectation can be misleading and can cause you much stress.
A healthy approach is to have realistic expectations. Suppose you’ve been away from each other. In that case, you should expect that both of you have become slightly different people than who you were before your long-distance relationship.
Realistically, you should expect to get to know each other all over again. In doing so, you may discover that you love each other very much and want to be together. You may also face the reality that you no longer have the same feelings for each other.
Suppose you discover that your feelings have changed. In that case, you may no longer have the same relationship dynamic as before the long-distance. The best way to deal with it is to talk about your feelings openly and honestly with each other.
Try to avoid jumping to conclusions and make unilateral decisions. Just because you no longer have romantic feelings for each other, doesn’t mean that you can still respect each other and maybe even remain friends.
Reunion Nerves After a Long-Distance Relationship
It’s normal to have reunion nerves after a long-distance relationship. If you have been apart for a long time, your feelings may have changed.
It’s hard to recreate the relationship you had with your partner if you don’t feel the same way about them. Many couples try to put themselves in an attempt to make the relationship work again. They dismiss their feelings, Or a lack off, and pretend that their relationship is the same as before.
It may be scary to face the reality that you may no longer feel the same way about your partner as you did before the long-distance. But it’s healthier to recognise your relationship for what it is, rather than try to make it into something it isn’t.
The more honest you can be with each other, the better are your chances of working things out and moving on if you have to.
How Do You Reunite in a Long-Distance Relationship?
When you’re in a long-distance relationship, reuniting is what both of you are looking forward to.
Your reunion can be as usual as a regular visit. But it can also be awkward and can make you nervous. How you reunite depends on how long you’ve been away from each other. It also depends on how often you saw each other during the long-distance relationship.
The longer time you spend without seeing each other, the more strange your reunion may feel. One way you can happily reunite in a long-distance relationship is by sharing your feelings before your reunion.
If you haven’t seen each other for a long time, your romantic feelings may have changed. If that’s the case, you should tell your partner how your feelings have changed. Share any doubts you may have about your relationship and your reunion.
Suppose you are honest and open with each other about how you feel about them. In that case, it will be easier to handle your reunion. When both of you are aware of some doubts and tensions in regards to your relationship from either side, it will be easier for you to talk about it when you meet.
You can’t predict what will happen upon your reunion after a long-distance relationship. In a long-distance relationship, you may feel that you’ve grown apart. Still, the moment you reunite, you may go back to the happy relationship you once had.
Your reunion may also go the other way, leaving you feeling disconnected and confused. You may want to ignore these feelings, but the best solution is to talk about them with your partner. They might feel the same way, or they might feel very much in love.
The best thing to do is to express your thoughts and feelings and try to understand each other. Together, you’ll be able to find a way forward that works for both of you. You may choose to give your relationship another go, remain friends or break up.
Awkward Reunion After a Long-Distance Relationship
Reunion after a long-distance relationship can be exciting, but at the same time, it may feel awkward.
You might feel awkward reuniting after a long-distance relationship because the person with whom you are reuniting is no longer the same person with whom you had a relationship before the long-distance.
Long-distance relationships aren’t meant to last for a long time. The longer you are in the long-distance relationship, the more you can grow apart from each other.
When you are reuniting after a long-distance relationship, be mindful of this idea. If you are expecting to continue your relationship from where you left it, you might be disappointed. When you are aware that your partner might be slightly different, and your relationship may not be the same, your reunion will be less stressful.
You may find that a long-distance relationship helped you reinforce your love for each other and improve your relationship.
You may also find that your relationship no longer works.
The best thing to do is to talk about your feelings with your partner and face the truth. Trying to make your relationship work when it doesn’t, will only bring you suffering and waste your time.
Tips and Ideas for a Long-Distance Relationship Reunion
Here are some tips and ideas for reuniting after a long-distance relationship:
- Don’t expect to have the same relationship as you did before the long-distance.
- The longer you were in a long-distance relationship, the more both of you may have changed.
- Tell your long-distance partner your feelings, doubts, and concerns about your reunion before you meet.
- Ask your long-distance partner about their feelings and concerns about your reunion, if they have any.
- When you reunite, keep an open mind about your relationship.
- Be ready to give your relationship another go, but also be prepared if it doesn’t work anymore to consider a break-up.
- Please don’t ignore your feelings and try to make your relationship work the way it did before you started a long-distance relationship.
- Stay true to your feelings and share them openly and honestly with your partner.
- Whatever you decide to do about your relationship after the reunion, make all your decisions together with your partner.
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A reunion after a long-distance relationship is an exciting time for many couples. After being separated for some time, it’s great to be together finally.
But not all couples go back to the same relationship they had before they got separated. Sometimes, when a long-distance relationship lasts a long time, partners go through different experiences.
Being separated from a romantic partner, and having different experiences to your own, may change the way you feel about your partner and your relationship.
The truth is, you never know what’s your relationship will be like when you reunite after a long-distance. You may have an even stronger relationship after being apart, or you may feel that you’re no longer happy in this relationship. Communication during your long-distance relationship and once you reunite is the best thing you can do.
It’s best to talk to your partner about things that are on your mind before you reunite. Suppose you talk about your doubts, feelings, and insecurities beforehand. In this case, it will be easier for you to handle your reunion, whichever way it goes.
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Frequently Asked Questions
How to reunite after a long-distance relationship?
First, share your feelings about the relationship with your partner. Tell them your thoughts, doubts, and insecurities you may have about your reunion. When you reunite, keep an open mind about your relationship. You may continue a loving relationship you once had, or you may find that it’s time for you to move on. Whatever you decide, make sure to do it together.
What to expect from a reunion after a long-distance relationship?
Expect that both you and your partner have changed while you were in a long-distance relationship. Don’t expect your relationship to go back to where you left it before the long distance.
Why do I feel awkward about the reunion with my long-distance partner?
If you haven’t seen your partner for a while, you may have forgotten what it’s like being with them. You probably maintained an emotional connection by regularly talking online. But it’s much harder to maintain physical connection when you are away. So you may feel awkward because you are unsure how you feel being with them after this time apart. You might be afraid that your romantic feelings are no longer there or that they are not the same as before.
How to stop being nervous about my long-distance relationship reunion?
You are nervous because you don’t know what the reunion will be like and how you will feel about each other when you reunite. One thing you can do is to talk about what’s bothering you before your reunion. Share your doubts and concerns, and see if your partner has any. Talking about your feelings before the reunion will get both of you ready for whatever happens. As long as you are open and honest with each other, you will have a good chance of working it out.
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