What to Do When a Long-Distance Relationship Gets Boring?

What to Do When a Long-Distance Relationship Gets Boring?

Many couples phase their long-distance relationship, becoming boring. Sometimes there are things you can do to make a long-distance relationship more exciting. Other times, a boring relationship is this saying that it’s no longer working.

A long-distance relationship becomes boring when couples spend too much time talking on the phone or sending text messages. Excessive communication takes the time you could spend doing something exciting with your life. When you spend too much time talking, you will run out of things to say and will result in boring conversations.

In this article, I’d like to talk about things that make your long-distance relationship boring. Will have a look at what you can do to prevent your long-distance relationship from getting boring and how to fix it if it is.

What makes a long-distance relationship boring?

If you feel that your long-distance relationship is getting boring, it means that you are feeling bored in this relationship.

A relationship itself is what you make of it. For example, you may feel bored in your long-distance relationship, while your partner might feel okay with it.

So the real question is, why are you feeling bored with your long-distance relationship? In other words, what makes it boring for you?

There are several reasons why couples feel bored in a long-distance relationship. Excessive communication is one example. If you talk too much, and then you will run out of things to say, and your conversations will get boring.

Another reason you might feel bored in the long-distance relationship is that your feelings have changed for your partner. Another possibility is that behind the boredom, is sadness and frustration of the fact that you cannot be physically together with your long-distance partner.

Boring phone calls in a long-distance relationship

Many couples spend way too much time on phone calls to each other. They do so to feel closer to the person they cannot be with physically.

But no amount of phone calls can you please physical connection with the person you love. Phone calls are great to catch up on your day’s events and talk about your feelings for a little while.

If you spend too much talking on the phone, you wouldn’t have any time left to do other things with your life.

Boring communication in a long-distance relationship

Once you’ve shared everything you could, You should hang up and carry on with your life. In a long-distance relationship, communication is how you maintain an emotional connection. If your communication becomes boring, then your relationship becomes boring.

If you’re no longer interested in a relationship, then there is no point continuing it.

Excessive communication doesn’t only take you away from doing things with your life; it can also be destructive to your relationship.

Boring conversation in a long-distance relationship

Boring conversations lead to a boring relationship. If you want to make a long-distance relationship work, you should find a way to manage your conversations.

If you run out of things to say, hang up, and do something fun and exciting with your life. If you fill your life with exciting things, you can share this excitement with your long-distance partner during your conversations.

If you spend all your time talking, do you, long-distance partner, you won’t get a chance to do anything exciting so. In the end, you will take away the time from doing things you enjoy as well as wasted on having boring conversations.

How to keep a long-distance relationship from getting boring? 

There are a few things you can do to keep your long-distance relationship from getting boring:

  1. First of all, agree on how often you will communicate with your long-distance partner.
  2. Arrange the times to have your conversations when it suits both of you.
  3. Set a limit of how long you communicate with your long-distance partner.
  4. If you have shared everything you wanted to and your conversation.

A little discipline will go along way into making your conversations less boring.

How to fix a boring long-distance relationship? 

To fix a boring long-distance relationship, try to understand why you’re feeling bored in your relationship.

Your feeling of boredom can stem from the fact that you are no longer interested in this relationship. When you start a long-distance relationship, you’re very excited about getting to know a new person that you like. If you feel bored in your long-distance relationship, that means the opposite.

One thing you could do is try to figure out if you’re bored of being away from someone you love, are you bored of meaningless conversations, or are you no longer interested in talking to this person?

Once you understand the reason for your boredom, you can act accordingly. If your boredom comes from excessive communication, and easy solution is to limit the frequency and the length of your communication.

If your boredom is a cover for your frustration of being away from your partner for a long time, move in together, or at least visit each other more often.

If you’re bored from your long-distance relationship because you’re no longer interested in this person, Then the solution may be to end your long-distance relationship altogether.

Once you’ve understood the reasons for you being bored in a long-distance relationship, could you share it with your partner? You don’t need to work it out on your own. As long as you’re in a relationship, both of you can help each other to work things out.

When you share your thoughts and feelings with your long-distance partner, they might have a few ideas on how to spice things up a little bit. You may very well discover that regardless of what you do, your relationship just isn’t working.

And if it’s time to end it, that’s okay. One thing you should do is to make all your decisions about your relationship together with your long-distance partner.

How to spice up a boring long-distance relationship?

Here are a few things you can do to spice up your long-distance relationship:

  • Reduce the amount of time you spend talking.
  • Focus on keeping your conversations to the point.
  • Avoid boring phone calls; find something exciting to share.
  • Explore different ways to feel connected other than talking on the phone.
  • Send your long-distance partner an occasional handwritten letter with a few photographs of yourself doing something fun.
  • Gifts and care packages can speak a thousand words, especially when they carry a personal message and have associations with the two of you having a great time together.


Suppose you find yourself in a boring long-distance relationship. In this case, you may want to try and spice up your relationship by doing fun things together and working on your communication.

Sometimes, a feeling of boredom while in a long-distance relationship can be a sign that your relationship isn’t working. In this case, you Should talk to your long-distance partner about your feelings, and together you can try to come up with a solution.

Avoid keeping your thoughts and feelings to yourself, because they will just cause you more pain. As long as you’re in a relationship, discuss it with your long-distance partner and make all your decisions together.

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Frequently Asked Questions

What to do when your long-distance relationship gets boring?

When your long-distance relationship gets boring, try to understand why you feel bored in this relationship. Sometimes it’s a matter of managing your communication and spicing things up a little bit. Other times, boredom is a sign that your relationship isn’t working.

When a long-distance relationship gets boring?

A long-distance relationship gets boring when you spend too much time talking to your partner and having meaningless conversations. Try to balance your personal life and your long-distance relationship.

Alex Larryngton

Hi, I’m Alex:) As a Relationship Coach, I am someone you come to when you feel stuck in a relationship and want to find a way out.

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