Being in a long-distance relationship can be challenging and frustrating. If it’s not going anywhere sooner or later, you will get tired of it. So, what can you do about it?
So, if you are wondering what to do when you are tired of a long-distance relationship, here are a few things you can try:
- Reassess your relationship to see where it’s going.
- Make it work by making a plan and a timeline to close the distance.
- If you had enough of being in a long-distance relationship, take a break to see how you feel about it.
Trying to make a long-distance relationship work requires a lot of effort. It’s not easy being away from your romantic partner for a long time. It would help if you had time and money to maintain a healthy long-distance relationship. While you can make the most out of your situation, sometimes the distance can get too much.
Why Are Long-Distance Relationships so Hard?
Long-distance relationships are notoriously hard because couples try to make them last for a long time. It’s not natural to be away from your romantic partner for long periods.
When you are in a romantic relationship, you expect to be close to the person you love. Naturally, you want to hug and kiss and hold them whenever you like as much as you want.
When couples live together, the longest they go without seeing each other is usually half a day. Couples in long-distance relationships may see each other once every few weeks or sometimes every few months.
Being away from a romantic partner while in a long-distance relationship can be confusing for your body and mind. While your mind may understand the reasons you are away from your partner, your body and unconscious mind will be desperate for physical contact.
While you can try to make your long-distance relationship last, at some point, you just get tired of it. When this happens, you could take a moment to see if it makes sense for you to continue this relationship the way it is.
To make a long-distance relationship work, you need patience, money and time. The difficulty couples face while in a long-distance relationship is having feelings towards each other while finding it hard to be together because of the circumstances.
Depending on your situation, you might have a particular reason for being tired in your long-distance relationship. Once you can understand your reason for being tired, you can try to find a way to make it work.
Sometimes, you need to adjust the way you see your long-distance relationship and learn to manage it the right way. Other times, circumstances can get too much for you to handle and it’s a good idea to have a break.
Tired of Texting in a Long-Distance Relationship
When you are away from your romantic partner, you feel the lack of physical intimacy. To compensate for the lack of physical closeness, you naturally want to spend more time texting your long-distance partner to feel connected.
While it’s understandable that you want to feel close to your partner, excessive texting can be damaging to your relationship. When you spend a lot of time texting your long-distance partner, you have less time to do the things you need to or would like to do in your real life.
Another problem with texting is that it’s hard to express yourself with enough clarity for your partner to understand what you mean. Usually, people use a lot of abbreviations with misspellings and incorrect punctuation.
All these things are ok for a quick text message. But if you want to express deeper thoughts or feelings, this type of texts can be easily misinterpreted.
The misinterpretation of messages through texting can lead to confusion and unnecessary arguments.
Suppose your primary way of communication with your long-distance partner is via texting. In that case, it’s natural that at some point, you will get tired of it. It takes a lot of time to express your thoughts and feelings through texting, and it’s tough to put your ideas across in the right way.
If you feel tired of texting, it’s a sign that something needs to change. If you are texting too much, then try reducing the amount of time you spend on texting your long-distance partner and spend more time doing things with your life.
If you are tired of texting because it leads to a lot of confusion and misunderstandings, leave meaningful conversations for video calls or when you visit each other.
Tired of Waiting in a Long-Distance Relationship
Long-distance relationships can be hard to maintain if you don’t have a plan and a specific date for moving in together.
Sometimes, even if you have a plan, but your reunion date is too far in the future, you get tired of waiting.
The reason you might feel tired of waiting in a long-distance relationship could be because you are struggling to maintain a healthy long-distance relationship. If you’re not enjoying this relationship, the only positive thing you can do is look forward to the day when you get to live together.
A long-distance relationship is hard as it is. But struggling and suffering every day wishing to be together, makes it even harder.
When you feel tired of being in a long-distance relationship, try to focus on the positives. For example, you have a lot more time to do the things you enjoy with people you like.
You can catch up on your hobbies, your studies, or your work. If you find a way to be busy, you will spend less time and energy on negative thinking.
With that in mind, maybe all you want is to have physical intimacy with someone you love. In this case, there are several options. You can find a way to move in together sooner, or at least have more frequent visits.
If there is no way you can be physically close, perhaps consider an open long-distance relationship. An open long-distance relationship isn’t for everyone. But it allows you to satisfy your physical needs while maintaining a romantic relationship with your long-distance partner.
If you decide to end your relationship, try to avoid making a unilateral decision. Talk to your long-distance partner and share your doubts and concerns. They might have some ideas to help you resolve the issues. If not, at least they will appreciate your trust and will understand why both of you should take a break.
Tired of Being Alone in a Long-Distance Relationship
When you are in the long-distance relationship, you spend a lot of time away from your romantic partner. But it doesn’t mean that you have to be alone. All this time you have can be spent on doing the things you enjoy in the company of people you like.
The beauty of a long-distance relationship is that you can do all the things you want in your personal life while having a romantic relationship at the same time.
However, this only works for a short while. If you are in a romantic relationship, it means you want to be romantically involved with someone you love. Romance involves sharing your thoughts and feelings as well as being physically close with that person.
If you have to spend a long time without visiting each other, your need for physical intimacy will be unfulfilled. Naturally, you will feel annoyed and sexually frustrated. There is no need for you to tolerate these feelings. If you have specific needs, you should be able to fulfil them.
When you are in love with someone in the long-distance relationship, this can be more challenging. There is a specific person you love and want to be with, but that also means that you can’t fulfil your physical needs.
This leaves you physically alone from a romantic point of you. Unless you have a specific end date for your long-distance relationship, you are sabotaging yourself and giving up on self-fulfilment.
When you commit to a romantic relationship with someone who lives far away, you are depriving yourself of having physical intimacy in your life. You cannot be with the person you love because they’re far away. At the same time, you are not in the position to start a romantic relationship with anyone else who might be nearby.
A long-distance relationship has many benefits, but it should be temporary until you can move in together. However, if moving in isn’t an option, consider ending your relationship. As long as you are in a long-distance relationship, you won’t have a full romantic experience, that includes physical intimacy.
When you find yourself tired of being in a long-distance relationship, it’s time to reassess. Take a week or so without talking to your long-distance partner. This timeout will allow you to reflect on your life and your relationship.
You may discover that your long-distance relationship is making your life harder and is keeping you away from enjoying your life. In this case, you have a few options.
You can find the very thing that is bothering you the most in your long-distance relationship. Something that makes you feel tired of dealing with it. Once you pinpoint the problem that is bothering you, you can find a way to fix it.
Some aspects of a long-distance relationship are more challenging to fix than others. If something is making you feel tired of being in a long-distance relationship, talk to your partner and consider moving in together or ending your relationship.
When you love someone, you want to give your best to this relationship. But sometimes even your best isn’t enough to make a long-distance relationship work.
Whatever you decide, make sure you discuss your doubts, thoughts, and feelings with your long-distance partner. Once you talk about things, you can find a way to make it work or end it. As long as you make your decision together, all is well.
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Frequently Asked Questions
I am tired of my long-distance relationship; what to do?
Figure out which aspect of your long-distance relationship you feel tired about. Talk to your partner about your thoughts, feelings, and things that bother you the most. Together with your long-distance partner, you can try to find a solution that works for both of you. If you can’t, you might have to end your long-distance relationship for now.
Do long-distance relationships last?
A long-distance relationship can last as long as the couple wants to make it last. But, just because it lasts a long time doesn’t mean it is a healthy relationship. If you feel your relationship isn’t working, consider spicing it up or break up and move on.
How long is too long for a long-distance relationship?
You know it’s too long when you cannot visit each other as often as you like. You struggle to maintain an emotional connection. A long-distance relationship can work very well for a few months. This time is enough to get to know someone new if you are starting a long-distance relationship online or maintaining an existing relationship.
Why do most long-distance relationships fail?
• Lack of physical intimacy
• Struggling to maintain an emotional connection
• A long-distance relationship lasting for too long
• Partners grow apart
• Not having a plan to moving in together
• Feelings change or partners develop feelings for someone else
When to let go of a long-distance relationship?
When your long-distance relationship isn’t working, you can try to fix it. However, sometimes circumstances can be beyond your control. In that case, you should consider having a break from your relationship or stay friends. Suppose the issue is the lack of physical intimacy. In that case, some couples find it helpful to be in an open long-distance relationship.