Long-distance relationships are hard to maintain for a long period of time. The main problem is the lack of physical intimacy, which is an integral part of a romantic relationship. While long-distance relationships can be great for a short period, the longer they last, the harder they become.
That said, there are a few things you can do to make your long-distance relationship work until you get a chance to be together.
Any successful long-distance relationship needs clear goals, a plan, and a timeline.
Having set goals give your relationship a direction and gives you the reassurance of knowing what to expect.
During the difficult time of doubts and uncertainties, this reassurance can go a long way towards your emotional well-being.
Your goals should include maintaining physical and emotional intimacy.
As long as you are in a long-distance relationship most of the interaction with your partner is online.
Therefore, online communication is the primary way for you to maintain your relationship. As such, the health and success of your relationship directly depend on how well you communicate, express yourself and understand each other.
The only way for you to maintain physical intimacy in a long-distance relationship is by visiting each other as often that you need.
It is equally important for you to make the most of your visits together by having fun as well as talking about your relationship.
A lack of physical intimacy can lead to sexual frustration, which will strain your relationship and make it that much harder.
Forgetting to address your problems during your visits will cause them accumulate and in turn it will put even more pressure on you and your relationship.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Do long-distance relationships work?
Long-distance relationships work for people who meet online and want to get to know each other better. They also work for couples who are relocating and have to be apart for some time. In any case, it’s better if you can make it a short phase in your relationship.
How to make online long-distance relationships work?
To make a long-distance relationship work online, you need to have clear, open, and honest communication. It’s only possible if you work on improving your communication. You also need a clear plan on how to manage your relationship long-distance and a strategy to fix problems when they come around.
How to make long-distance relationships work in college?
Long-distance relationships can be hard to maintain while in college. You can try to make it work, but more often than not, it will keep you away from enjoying your college life.
How to make a long term long-distance relationship work?
Long-distance relationships aren’t meant to last for a long time. A romantic relationship implies physical intimacy. In a long-distance relationship, you only see your partner once every few weeks or once a month. Lack of physical intimacy can lead to sexual frustration and negatively impact your relationship and your overall well-being.
How to make your long-distance relationship work again?
If you already had a long-distance relationship that didn’t work, stop and ask yourself why. Sometimes, emotions take over, and it’s hard to say this situation for what it is. Having some time away from a relationship will allow you to see it from a different perspective. Once you can identify what didn’t work in your previous long-distance relationship, you can learn from it and do better next time.
How long can your LDR last without physical intimacy?
Every person has a different need for sexual intimacy. If you are in a long-distance relationship, you may need physical intimacy more than your long-distance partner. In this case, it will be harder for you to cope with being away from them for a long time. The healthy way to deal with it is to talk about your feelings and needs with your partner. Together, you can find a way forward that works for both of you.
What does it take to make your LDR work?
It takes understanding, effective communication, having specific goals, a plan and a timeline.
What to do if your LDR isn’t working?
If your relationship isn’t working, try out this workbook and if you can’t still figure out how to improve your relationship book a coaching session to discuss in detail your situation and find a way that will work for you and your partner.
How long should you try to make your LDR work?
Long-distance relationships can work great for a short while provided you have a clear plan for moving in together. Staying in an LDR for too long can leave you feeling emotionally exhausted and confused.
How do you know your LDR isn’t working?
You will feel generally unhappy. You will have constant arguments and misunderstandings. You may lack the excitement you had at the beginning of your relationship.