Sharing your feelings, thoughts and desires is one of the most fundamental things in a relationship.
Unless you express how you feel, what you think, and what you want, you partner will not know what’s going on inside of you and struggle to understand your point of view.
Inside this workbook you will find examples, ideas, questions and exercises for you and your partner related to this topic.
Areas you will explore throughout this workbook
Being away from your partner means that neither of yours physical/sexual needs will be satisfied.
One way to manage this is by talking openly and honestly about all your feelings and desires. Once you get it out in the open, it will allow both of you get on the same page and together you can make the best decisions that work for both of you. For this to happen you need to have an amazing communication skills and the ability to bring up the sensitive topics.
Since it is not always an easy task, this workbook can help you a lot in getting comfortable to talk about different things. It is also a guide that will help you have important conversations, so you can feel emotionally connected.
Communication problems can be hard to fix because if you had good communication, you wouldn’t have these problems to begin with.
This is one of those occasions where an external help can go a long way in getting your relationship back on track.
Communication breakdowns and disagreements in your relationship can easily turn into arguments.
While it’s ok to have disagreements, constant unresolved arguments tend to accumulate and after a while and can break your relationship.
Without expressing your feelings in the right way, resentment can start building, your feelings may fade, and you may start losing interest in your relationship altogether.
Planning your LDR
A clear plan is an essential part for a successful long-distance relationship. Apart from knowing how to make a plan and what it should include, you also need to have clear goals and effective communication.
It is only with good communication that you can express yourself, hear your partner and agree on the plan that works for both of you.
If you don’t yet have a plan for your relationship, you absolutely need one if your relationship is to have any chance of success.
Any good plan starts with a simple discussion about how you feel and what you want.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is communication important in a long-distance relationship?
Effective communication is how you can express yourself, understand your partner, and work out issues in your relationship. In a long-distance relationship, communication is even more important than in a regular one, because most of your relationship is communication. So it’s essential to have effective communication.
How often should you communicate in a long-distance relationship?
A healthy frequency of communication depends on how often you need to talk and how much time you have. A healthy frequency of communication allows you to have an exciting conversation and share something meaningful without taking too much time. Talking a little every other day should be enough for most couples to keep an emotional connection while still having personal space for their own development or enjoyment.
Do you need to talk every day in a long-distance relationship?
In a long-distance relationship, you don’t need to talk every day. Every other day should be enough to catch up on your life events and share something meaningful or exciting.
How do you communicate in a long-distance relationship?
Communication is important in any relationship. In a long-distance relationship, it varies in some ways, which we’ve talked about in this article. The biggest difference is the lack of communication via physical touch. So it’s important to communicate with clarity and to make sure that your partner understands you.
How do you deal with silent treatment in a long-distance relationship?
Silent treatment shouldn’t exist in a healthy relationship. Silent treatment doesn’t help you resolve problems and doesn’t contribute to a healthy long-distance relationship. Being quiet doesn’t help you solve the issues, only creates emotional distance. Either work out your differences or end your relationship and move on.
How effective communication applies to a long-distance relationship?
Effective communication helps you maintain an emotional connection with your long-distance partner. With clear communication and understanding, you can resolve most of the problems that come your way. In a long-distance relationship, you are quite limited as to what you can do. Improving your communication is one thing that is your hands.
How do you fix communication in a long-distance relationship?
If you have a break down in communication with your long-distance partner, try the following:
Identify what is causing the problem. Is miscommunication, the frequency, quantity, wrong timing because of the time difference?
Discuss this issue with your long-distance partner.
Together with your partner agree on ways and frequency of communication that works for both of you.
Remember to express yourself as clearly as you can.
How can I improve communication in my LDR?
To improve your communication in a long-distance relationship, try the following:
Talk enough to maintain an emotional connection, but not too much that your conversations become boring.
Consider the time difference and arrange the best time to talk that suits both of you.
Express yourself clearly by phone and texting.
What is effective communication in a long-distance relationship?
Effective communication in a long-distance relationship is your ability to talk to your partner in a way that you understand each other.
To reach this understanding, both you and your partner need two skills expressing yourself clearly and listening to each other. To have a healthy and successful long-distance relationship, you have to be able to reach this understanding predominantly through online means.
Why is effective communication important in a long-distance relationship?
Effective communication allows you to maintain a healthy relationship even when you are physically apart. Poor communication creates confusion that leads to unnecessary arguments.
What are some communication problems in a long-distance relationship?
If you don’t have effective communication, it can lead to problems. Unresolved problems can lead to resentment. Growing resentment can create many issues for your long-distance relationship and can weaken your emotional connection. All of this can happen silently unless you talk about the doubts, worries and concerns you have at the moment they arise.
The only way to break from this cycle of blame and resentment is to talk about your thoughts and feelings openly and honestly with your partner. Otherwise, this blame will spark resentment and make your relationship toxic.
Effective communication will help you avoid problems and allow you to have a healthy and loving long-distance relationship.
What happens when there is a lack of communication in a long-distance relationship?
Lack of communication is a sign of an unhealthy long-distance relationship. There are two reasons why you may feel that you don’t have enough communication in your relationship.
One reason is that you may interpret that your communication is not enough because you want more, to feel closer. It could mean that you are starting to feel disconnected from your long-distance partner.
Another reason is that now you communicate less than before. It can be a sign that you are growing apart, which can happen when you are in a long-distance relationship for too long.
What is excessive communication in an LDR?
In a long-distance relationship, it’s easy to have excessive communication. It’s a way of compensating for the lack of physical intimacy. But the problem is that this effort to compensate doesn’t work because no amount of talking can replace the physical touch of the person you love.
In the beginning, it may seem fair to spend an extra few minutes talking to each other, but it may be a problem if it turns into hours. Talking every day for hours can become a routine and an obligation, which can harm your relationship in the long term.
If you don’t set up boundaries of the time you spend talking to your partner, you will end up compromising your own life. Excessive communication may create resentment for having to spend all your free time talking to your long-distance partner instead of using this time for personal development.
How to communicate effectively in a long-distance relationship
To create a healthy relationship and grow as a couple, you need to know how to communicate with each other. Both you and your partner need to be able to express and listen to each other.
You need two things to communicate effectively clarity and understanding. Lack of clarity leads to assumptions, misunderstandings, and conflicts. It is one of the main reasons long-distance relationships fail. Sometimes we are afraid of getting clear because clarity means facing the truth.
We don’t always like what we see, and we may ignore the issue altogether. It is ok for a holiday fling or a casual relationship. But, if you are serious about making it work, clarity is a must.
What happens if you don’t communicate well in your LDR?
When you don’t communicate well in an LDR you will start having constant arguments and misunderstandings that will lead to problems in your relationship.